One of my hard limits is "no abandonment." I can take a lot of things but just can't handle being ignored. Go ahead and tell me that you hate me. I can take that. Tell me that you don't think I'm a good friend. I can take that, too. But please don't cut me out of your life and expect me to guess why I've been put out in the doghouse. I'm just not that smart.
It's refreshing, in a way, to find out after four years why I've been bounced out of the life of one of my former friends. In the meantime I've been reaching out, trying to contact her all to no avail. She's been insulated by one of her slaves who would occasionally tersely respond to emails with an impolite "go away" but no explanation as to why. I thought perhaps it was jealousy.
No, apparently it was orders. It took four years but I finally wore down the wall and got a response from my old friend directly without being funneled through her slave.
Now my mind is boggled. Why am I persona non grata? Because I got a call out of the blue all those years ago asking me to come help her pack and I my schedule wouldn't allow it. That slight apparently ended our friendship. It's good to know after all this time.
All those conversations, the hours we spent together--the intimate times and the mundane, going out to lunch like two normal human beings, even trying to help her get a job. All of that undone because I couldn't come running when she called after months of radio silence. Apparently I valued our friendship a lot more than she did. That's very sad but it's satisfying to finally learn just how petty of a reason for abandoning me this has been.
Addendum: I tried to be fairly respectable in this post and not mention any names but that doesn't seem to be working well due to some feedback being given here.